PRESENTS AND GIFT GIVING

Efe Ikhenaode

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO GIVE PRESENTS?

People gift others as a way of showing love, appreciation, affection and thoughtfulness. They do it mostly to evoke joy in the receiver. It means to show love through items.

WHY SHOULD I GIVE PRESENTS?

We’re arriving at the Christmas season and although most of our plans are on how to get money from spouses and older relatives. I doubt more than 30% of us has given any thought as to what to gift our friends and family members and yes, I’m talking about your parents and older siblings! Giving a gift to someone we care about allows us to communicate our feelings and appreciation for them as they often help to reaffirm the connection and bond we share. It can also make you feel good about yourself!! (#werisebyliftingothers)

GIFTING RULES/ETIQUETTE

Before giving out gifts, it is important to take note on some things:

1. Be culturally aware. It would be tragic if you were to embarrass or offend a loved one because of ignorance. It should be noted that not all culture or society celebrate the festive season in the same way.

2. Give from the heart. As our elders would say: “don’t give with your left hand.” It is important that any and all presents should be given with a free will and mind. Do not give grudgingly. Most of the time, the receiver can always tell, and it does no good for either of you.

3. Ask for what your loved one wants or needs. The last thing you want is to spend a chunk of your savings only to have the receiver disappointed or to later find out that it had never been in use. Finding out from others or the receiver can help save time, money and effort.

4. Do not expect something in return. I’ve been that position a lot of times and you should know, it feels awful. It also makes one feel petty and small. The best way to give out a present is to expect nothing in return.

5. Little things matter. You don’t have to spend your whole earnings on gifts; this applies very well to those in relationships. Sometimes, those little things can make all the difference, those things that people don’t realize they need until they see them. A thimble for a tailor, a water bottle, a lip balm, and even a home cooked meal!

In conclusion, don’t forget that everyone needs a gift. So when you’re going home for the Christmas holiday, don’t forget to pick out gifts for your friends and family members!